Updated: Sep 1
So you're getting married and have decided to take on the task of writing your own vows, but need some help getting started? It can be a daunting task, but here is a few tips to help you out as well as a link to a great example to get you started!
Start by reading examples and watching videos online to help you decide on a style and tone that you may like. Do you like vows that have a religious tone, or vows that are deeply personal? Or maybe a combination of both? The possibilities are endless!
Agree on a tone
Next, you'll want to sit down with your fiance and decide how you want the vows to feel. Do you want them to be funny and silly? Sweet and romantic? A combination of both? It's important to discuss in case one of you is more comical and one is more serious. You don't want to feel like one of you put more effort in or didn't take it seriously.
Write down ideas
Now grab a piece of paper and start jotting down things about your partner and your relationship. This can include stories about how your love story began, how you felt when you first met or the moment you knew you were in love, just to name a few! The possibilities are endless.
Make your promises
Come up with a couple of promises--these are vows after all. These can be super personal like "I promise to always go on long walks with you" or more general things like " I vow to love you unconditionally for the rest of my life." I recommend doing a combination of both, but whatever feels most comfortable for you!
Now jot it all down. I suggest taking it in four parts--Declare your love, tell a story, make your promises and close it out with a final vow.
Read it to yourself
Do you have anything too cryptic or embarrassing? What about any cliches you stole off the internet that don't really fit the two of you? Remove those items and do your best to keep them to no longer than two minutes. I also suggest practicing several times. You don't have to memorize it word for word, but this will help in making sure you are comfortable with what you are saying.
Make a clean copy
The last thing you'll want is to be tripping over your own handwriting on your big day!
Fun Tip: My husband and I like to re-read our vows to each other on every anniversary! it's a sweet way to reaffirm your love and commitment to each other!